How we rate platforms

The criteria

We compare every platform on the same points, in this order of importance:

1. Real people. Verification tools, and anything in a site's own terms about staff-run or "illustrative" profiles. We read the terms so you don't have to.
2. Kink culture. Whether the platform is built around consent, community and stated limits, or treats BDSM as a marketing keyword.
3. Privacy. Breach history, who can see your profile, and how long data outlives your account. Being outed costs more than a subscription.
4. Honest pricing. What you pay before you can talk to anyone, and whether the price is published or revealed only at checkout.

We don't give star ratings or name a single "best" site. Which platform suits you depends on what you want, so each review says who it's good for and who should skip it.

Where the facts come from

Regulators (the FTC), company filings with the SEC, the platforms' own help centers and app-store listings, Pew Research Center surveys and established news outlets. Every fact that rests on a source links to it. Some facts are our own finding that nothing was published (for example "we found no regulator action" or "no audited user numbers"); those are marked "no published source found" so you can tell the difference. Where only a review site or press report gives a price, we say "reported". Where we could not confirm something, we leave it out instead of guessing. Facts were last checked in November 2026. Apps change prices and features often, so check the platform before you pay.

What we will never publish

• Fake profiles, photos of "members", or anyone presented as a person you could meet.
• Fake chat windows, "someone near you wants to meet" pop-ups, or invented member counts and distances.
• Made-up success stories or testimonials.

How we make money

Some links to platforms are, or will become, affiliate links: if you sign up or pay after clicking one, the platform or its affiliate network may pay us a commission. That never changes your price. We apply the same criteria whether or not a platform pays commissions, and we list platforms that pay us nothing. Platforms cannot pay to be included, to be placed higher or to change what we write. Links to platforms are marked as sponsored for search engines.

Some pages may also carry ads, always labelled "Sponsored" and kept apart from our verdicts, facts and comparison table. An advertiser is not endorsed by appearing in an ad slot, and ads never change what we write.

Corrections

Found something wrong or out of date? Email editor@fetish.now with a source and we'll fix it.