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Sub or Dom review
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Good for: Nobody we'd point to first: its own terms allow staff-run profiles.
Skip it if: You want to be sure the people messaging you are real members. Use FetLife or Feeld instead.
Visit Sub or DomSub or Dom looks like a BDSM dating site with articles, testimonials and a promise of a "strict verification process". Underneath, it is a white-label site on a shared network: its pages load from the servers of HubPeople, a company that provides ready-made dating sites to other brands, and its terms say the members you see may have joined through "other services operated by the Company". The terms never say who the company is.
The clause that decides it for us: "We do not guarantee that all the profiles found in Search will belong to our users, as we reserve the right to create profiles which are maintained and managed by our employees ('Staff Profiles')." The terms say these are for testing and research. They also call the site "an entertainment Service" and say the company "cannot guarantee that each User is at least the required minimum age". You can read them yourself here.
Messaging needs a subscription priced only on the payment page, plans and trials renew automatically at full price, and purchases are generally non-refundable. Data is kept for up to two years after you delete your profile. We earn a commission if you join through our link; it doesn't change this verdict. Skip it, or if you try it, never pay anyone you haven't met on video, and read our fake-profile guide first.
Is Sub or Dom legit?
It's a real, operating site, but its terms reserve the right to run "Staff Profiles" managed by employees, and they never name the company. We don't recommend it. Our fake-profile guide quotes the clause.
What are better alternatives to Sub or Dom?
FetLife for community and munches, and Feeld for verified matches. Both are free to start.
The facts
- Cost
- Free to register; messaging needs a paid subscription priced only on the payment page. Plans and discounted trials renew automatically at the standard rate, and purchases are generally non-refundable (US buyers can cancel within three business days).[1]
- Who uses it
- The terms say members you see may have signed up through "other services operated by the Company", and they never name the company. The site runs on the white-label software of HubPeople, a provider of private-label dating sites (its images load from HubPeople's servers). No user numbers.[1][2]
- Verification & safety tools
- The home page promises a "strict verification process", but the terms say the company "cannot guarantee that each User is at least the required minimum age". Photos are reviewed by moderators before they appear.[3][1]
- Privacy record
- The retention table keeps most personal data "indefinitely or 2 years following profile deletion" and payment records "indefinitely or 7 years". Your profile can be shown on the network's other sites.[1]
- Bots, fakes & regulators
- The terms: "We do not guarantee that all the profiles found in Search will belong to our users, as we reserve the right to create profiles which are maintained and managed by our employees ('Staff Profiles')." They also call it "an entertainment Service".[1]